Saturday 29 January 2011

A woman after my own heart

Commenting yesterday, somebody suggested that a major theme in my blogposts is 'Women are sillier than men'. I can't think that this is true. I think rather that I have hinted that I find a lot of British home educators whose views appear on the internet silly and the great majority of these are women. I find most politicians silly and they are nearly all men. Perhaps the person who made this comment is no logician and got a bit muddled up. At any rate, it is time to celebrate a woman whose book has recently been published. Amy Chua, a professor of law at Yale University, has written the best book on parenting and education which I have read in a very long while. It is called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and details may be found here;

http://www.amazon.com/Battle-Hymn-Tiger-Mother-Chua/dp/1594202842


Here are a couple of reviews;

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/books/bookreviews/8271303/Battle-Hymn-of-the-TigerMother-by-Amy-Chua-review.html


http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2011/jan/29/tiger-mother-amy-chua-review


Chua's thesis is that western parenting methods are utterly useless and tend to produce mediocrity. She cannot understand why any parent would praise their child for getting a grade B, instead of criticising her for not getting an A. As a personal aside, from the time my own daughter was twelve and was doing IGCSEs, the saying in our house was 'As are for losers'. Anything other than an A* was regarded as a failure and when she heard of friends who had gained As or Bs at their GCSEs, we would refer to them as having failed their exams. This motto has been retained for A levels.

Chua was mercilessly strict with her two daughters, allowing no television or computer games for instance. Quite right too. Again, my daughter was not allowed such foolishness either. In fact every page of this book cries out to be quoted. It is one of those books which one reads where somebody expresses views that are seldom heard and yet perfectly true. If there were more mothers around like Amy Chua, I have a suspicion that academic standards in this country would soar, regardless of what was done to schools. Academic success begins in the home and with the right home environment may be achieved whatever the school. I can heartily recommend this book to all home educating parents as a pattern for excellence. Here at least is one woman whom I am unlikely to describe as sillier than a man!

12 comments:

  1. I love to come here and get my morning giggle! You really are the funniest man.

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  2. 'Anonymous said...
    I love to come here and get my morning giggle! You really are the funniest man.'

    I aim to please, Anonymous!

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  3. And here's Lac Su on Tiger mothers leaving scars

    http://edition.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/01/20/lac.su.tiger.mother.scars/index.html?iref=obinsite

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  4. 'Perhaps the person who made this comment is no logician and got a bit muddled up.'

    Absolutely. That's because I am a silly woman!

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  5. 'suzyg said...
    And here's Lac Su on Tiger mothers leaving scars'

    These are though as nothing to the scars which a very poor education can leave. Witness the number of ill educated people in prisons and psychiatric units. No course of action is without hazard. All child rearing methods will have their casualties.

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  6. Webb says-I find most politicians silly and they are nearly all men.

    Did you find Ed Balls silly when he was in charge of the old children's department?

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  7. Off to have a look at it. At the very least it should be an interesting read...

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  8. Of course some people are not capable of gaining A* no matter how hard they try, my eldest daughter being one of them.
    Her C grades at GSCE were hard won and were realy the best she could acheive, to call her a failure would be cruel and silly.

    This is so obvious I cannot see how Simon could have missed it, he is cruel , silly and stupid.

    Of all the nosense that has ever come out of his mouth, this is by far the biggest load of nonsense.

    Oh and he is still a liar.

    Darren

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  9. Amy Chua herself repudiates the idea that her memoir is a parenting guide of any sort:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/16/fashion/16Cultural.html

    “I’ve been forced to answer questions about a book I didn’t write,” she said. “It’s not saying what people should do, it’s saying, ‘Here’s what I did, and boy did I learn a lesson.’ ” All this is captured, she said, in the book’s three-paragraph subtitle, which concludes with the words, “and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old.”

    And the NYT's review:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/20/books/20book.html

    "In truth, Ms. Chua’s memoir is about one little narcissist’s book-length search for happiness. And for all its quotable outbursts from Mama Grisly (the nickname was inevitable), it will gratify the same people who made a hit out of the granola-hearted “Eat, Pray, Love.”"

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  10. I do have to say Simon that I had some respect for most of your posts, but here you're sounding very very Daily Mail. If you don't take that as an insult, then the rest of respect will also go...

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  11. Simon wrote,
    "These are though as nothing to the scars which a very poor education can leave. Witness the number of ill educated people in prisons and psychiatric units."

    Are these the result of a poor education or are they the result of a neglectful, abusive upbringing that happens also to result in a poor education? How many children can learn effectively if they are worrying about their father being drunk that night and beating them or their mother or are being kept up to the small hours by arguments and lacking sleep as a result. How many children can learn effectively if they are anxious or miserable?

    If you have a good upbringing, and grow up happy, confident and loved I suspect you will do well even if you are relatively poorly educated. You will have the self esteem and support necessary to go out and educate yourself if that is what you want. I have seen this many times in friends and family where education wasn't especially valued by their parents when they were children but they had very happy and secure childhoods. I have also seen the opposite. They may start out the same qualification wise, but their futures have been very different.

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  12. "the best book on parenting and education which I have read in a very long while" ??????

    As the dad of a "straight A" student whose outstanding academic success came from a parenting philosophy that I'm sure would have made my wife and I seem in Ms. Chua's eyes the most appallingly softheaded slackers, I'm ROFLMAO, Simon.

    Neurotic tosh might be closer to the mark. IMHO naturally.

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