A mother posts that her four year-old daughter attends a pre-school setting for two days a week. The coordinator there needs to carry out an EYFS assessment on the children. This can be a requirement for funding purposes. The mother will not be sending her daughter to school and is, for reasons that are wholly beyond me, anxious to remain unknown to her local authority. She wants to know what she should do about this assessment. Twenty six minutes after she posted her enquiry, some helpful person came up with various suggestions. It is worth quoting this person. Among other things, she said:
'if you feel pressure to give personal info you can lie'
'just give a false name and address'
'You could also tell the preschool that you are moving out of the area'
Let's just stop and think about this for a moment. Somebody in an educational setting is making enquiries about your child and your immediate response is to try and conceal the child's true address. You then go on to pretend that you are moving out of the area. This is classic behaviour of abusive parents hoping to deflect attention from their victim. It is one of those tricks, like visiting the A&E of a hospital a long way from your home, that people who are neglecting or mistreating their kids often resort to.
The obvious question which springs to mind is why? Why would anybody in her senses deliberately set out in this way to mimic the conduct of an abusive parent? This is by no means an exceptional case; one often hears of home educating parents carrying on in ways which set alarm bells ringing for teachers and social workers. I would be curious to know if readers can shed any light upon this bizarre trend. It is almost as though these people are determined to attract the attention of social services by their foolish actions.